I feel joy during my challenging times when I give more space to others like my family, friends, colleagues and my partner. This detachment is not the opposite of love, it is actually a highest form of love. I feel more joyous and free when I don’t have expectations from others to do for me to make me happy, entertain, protected and cared for but to imbue my life with meaning and make sense of who I am. That is a lot of power given to others but also a lot of suffering given to them as well. These things are not easy to notice in ourselves as we lie to ourselves and these needs disguise themselves making us believe that they are some noble emotions. But they are just attachment to our Ego.